The Starting Line of Life

A teacher provided an exercise for his students. It is an instructive one and I hope that you watch the video.

Joe’s Perspective – Wealth and Privilege: It’s the old adage, you can’t choose your family. We are born into the family we are born into (period). You didn’t choose your parents and you had no impact on the choices they made before you were born. These choices provide the foundation for your young life. This foundation can give you a head-start in life or it can put you in a difficult starting position.

Joe’s Perspective – It’s not necessarily about race: As a white male, I would have only moved up a couple of spaces if I were in this race. My parents were divorced and my single parent never made more than $15,000 a year. Life was never easy and we had many financial difficulties. I know many poor white children with little or no advantages in life. I know many black and brown children whose parents are wealthy with all kinds of connections. The point of this exercise is to understand that we all don’t start this “life-race” at the same point. Some have inherent advantages and some have more obstacles to achieve success.

Joe’s Perspective – Going Forward: Regardless of the life you are born into, if you want to give your children certain advantages, listen to the questions posed in this exercise.  Do well in school. Graduate from high school. Go to college or learn a trade. Don’t get pregnant (or get someone pregnant) before you are mature/old enough to adequately provide for a child. Start a career. Choose a solid partner. Get married. Stay married. If you do this, you will provide your children with a huge head-start in the game of life. I promise.

Your Turn: Explain how this video helps you understand how the choices you make over the next 10 years will influence the starting point for your future children.

Comments 39

  1. If I don’t take care of the things I need to do from here all the way till I graduate college, the result I get will determine how my future children will have to start out their lives.

  2. My children should not have to suffer in life because of the chocies i made in life. I know that for my children to be successful I myself need to continue to grow and do well to give them opportunities to grow. This video shows when me that when you are in a more stable home and environment you have a better chance at winning this game called life.

  3. In the future, my children won’t have to struggle with such things because I’ve been working on and making sure that I’m going to have a successful career after I graduate. I won’t be a millionaire but they won’t have to worry about a thing.

  4. This video helps me understand not only me next 10 years but also the previous 10 years before I was born. My parents frequently tell me the sacrifices they had to make in order to provide not only for each other but also they children that they already had. I know that I need to be successful in the things that I do in order for my kids to be successful as well as give their kids a head start to success

  5. Basically, if I work hard for my future and get a good job that earns good money and have a healthy marriage, I will help and give my future children advantages and better opportunities!

  6. If work hard and do things right my outcome will be right. No matter how successful i am i can never turn my back against others who could use a kind gesture done to them . This helps me realize that i can be example to people around me and to my children in the future.

  7. If i care and work everything in life because i want my children to have a head start but i won’t spoil my kids i would have them work for everything they want so i can teach them in life you don’t just get you gotta earn it never take the easy way out so in this video it shows me that the choices i make now it can either make a bad start or a good start for my kids.

  8. The choices I make now will affect how much of a “head start” my children will have. The more good choices I make, the further my children’s “head start” will be. It all depends on how much I work these next 10 years for my future and for their future

  9. The video makes me realize the consequences of my actions if I choose to act poorly. My kids are not responsible for those action because they were made long before the child was born but yet they still have to pay. I don’t necessarily have to give the every privilege in life but I need to make sure their success is not hindered by my poor choices.

  10. This video shows me that I’m the one who starts my kids life and I can give them a head start. In the next ten years I need to stay in school and go to college to get a good career and find a wife. From there I’ll be able to support my child. It also shows me that my actions don’t only affect me but it’ll also affect my kids future.

  11. This video helps me see that the choices I make over the next 10 years will impact my children’s starting point at life because it shows that with kids who had good parenting were closer to the finish before the people with bad parenting were, which gives them a huge disadvantage.

  12. This makes me realize that the choices I make now don’t only affect me and my future but it affects my kids and my spouses future as well. Much of my children’s success depends on how I go about these next 10 years of my life.

  13. This video showed me that my actions and my future spuses actions make up somebodys life. We are the ones that decide if their life is good or not

  14. This video makes me realize that what I do now and in the next 10 years will impact the life of my future child. If I make bad choices not only will I be effected by it, but my child will also have to deal with it. I need to do everything in my power now and in the next ten years to help my future child become something in life. My decisions not only affect me but the people in my life.

  15. It helps me want to make sure that they have everything they need and i want them to get a head start at life so that they never have to worry about anything like meals or stuff like that.

  16. Most of my choices I make will affect my future. The choices I make will affect my future, but also the future for the people around me.

  17. This video makes me understand that everything you do doesn’t make you ahead of the game, no matter where you came from and what family you were born into. My children will not always have a head start, nothing will matter when it comes to “winning a race” as long as you fight for what you believe, my kids actions can affect the way that I act but not always, they have their own choice in running the race they want as long as they keep on going and never decide to give up, on their actions or mine. My actions will affect me, and my kids actions will affect them if the outcome is bad or good..

  18. This video makes me realize that my future is and could be affected from my past and what decisions I make today. My kids will have more of a “head start” if I make good decisions in my life now then wait until I am ready. Have them have a better “head start” than I would now.

  19. The choices I will make now will somewhat give my future kids a head start but not to much of a head start to the point where everything is handed to them. They will still have to work hard and do things themselves. I want my kids to be independent and grow and not have to rely on their parents for everything

  20. Knowing what can give you a head start in your life can change your prospective about who you should be around and how you should act. Having a ¨head start¨ in your life can be much more successful, and I want me and my children to get a head start in their life so they don´t finish last.

  21. This video helps me understand that if I want my children to be well off, I have to do everything right. It helps me understand the importance of the choices I make in my life that doesn’t only affect me but also affects my children.

  22. This video helps me understand that what I do means more than just right now. It means that my kids will be born into an altered version of the world based on my previous actions. My kids shouldn’t have to worry about what happens next, they should be able to grow and prosper without my actions causing a bad atmosphere.

  23. To help my children have that advantage in life, I need to make the right choices. I need to take control of the way I am headed. If I go to school and get a good job to have a set or growing salary, if I find that right person to stay married to the rest of my life and raise our children together, that is how I will set my children up for success by helping them. The way they start and continue their life is by myself helping them with the choices I make ahead of having them and that is important. I want them growing up wanting and striving for that success, I want them to earn most of it themselves but giving them that little head start will be helpful for them also. If I don’t go to college or get a good set career and if I don’t stay married to their father forever, they still have a chance to succeed but that means I just wasn’t strong enough to set them up for that head start.

  24. I want my children to know if you work hard enough anything is possible and the way I can show that is finishing college, doing what I love for work, and having a healthy marriage. I would want my children someday to follow in my footsteps and be a role model to their children. This is where leading by example comes into play.

  25. The video helps me understand that I have to act positively because if I act poor in the long run my kids will be affected even if those poor actions happened before the kids were born it will affect them negatively which means I have to have success so my kids will as well.

  26. My children will not suffer due to poor actions on my behalf. This video makes me realize the struggles that kids around the world have and how easy it is for others. My child will have a head start in life.

  27. If I do good in school and get good grades I will be able to go to college that will lead me a good career so when my kids come around I will be able to provide for them and have their lives start off right.

  28. Head starts don’t necessarily mean anything, because some people without a head start at life end up doing better then those that do get one. However, having a head start at life gives kids a better chance to be successful in life. The choices I make and the people I surround myself with right now will affect my future. If I make good choices and surround myself with good people, my children will have a head start at life.

  29. If I make the right choices over these next ten, my children will have a better starting point in their lives. For example, If I graduate from high school and college and get a good job that makes good money, I will have money to help provide for my children and family. On the other hand, if I make bad choices that influence my future, it will negatively affect my children’s future, and their starting point will be further back than it should be.

  30. This helped me understand that not only am I affecting my life with the good/poor choices I could make, but I’m also affecting the life my future children will have.

  31. This video makes me understand that everything you do doesn’t make you ahead of the game, no matter where you came from and what family you were born into. My children will not always have a head start, nothing will matter when it comes to “winning a race” as long as you fight for what you believe, my kids actions can affect the way that I act but not always, they have their own choice in running the race they want as long as they keep on going and never decide to give up, on their actions or mine. My actions will affect me, and my kids actions will affect them if the outcome is bad or good.

  32. I will make good decisions because I don’t want my kifs to be affected. I feel like it would be unfair if they suffered for my mistakes. Hopefully, they won’t have to worry at all.

  33. In order for my children to have a better chance of being successful and a better life growing up. I have to right now make the right choices and go down the right path. Because that will determine how they will begin their lives and won’t have to be going through a struggle if I make the right choices for the next 10 years.

  34. If I don’t take care of the things I need to do from here all the way till I graduate college, the result I get will determine how my future children will have to start out their lives.

  35. The choices you make now is what is going to make you succeed over the next few years. Without a choice there is nothing you’ll become in life because you have no idea what your doing and why your doing it.

  36. I feel that my children should have to suffer and not be waethly enough to tale care if them selfs because of the choices that were mad for me when i was young.

  37. This video helped me understand that everyone starts in a different level weather is the rich,middle, or poor class but it doesn’t matter what level you were born in if you put a lot of effort on what you want ,you will prove does around you that even though you had a rough start only does who really want it can accomplish it . This video taught me to be more careful on the decision I make and the way I think because nothing in life is easy it won’t be given to you because you have to work for it like others had to.

  38. This race really shows the students involved that life isn’t all the same for everyone. It also shows that life is unfair but that doesn’t mean you stop fighting.

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